‘Shave your legs or I’ll break up with you’: Shallow Man Throws Ultimatum on His Girlfriend of Two Years After She Boosts Her Confidence By Not Shaving

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Briana Viser • Writer and Editor
Feb 29, 2024 4:00 PM EST

Queens and kings of the internet, welcome back to all things relationships and dating. We all have things that attract us, that deter us, physically and emotionally. You ever meet someone who looks so perfect on the outside, then they have the worst voice in the world? Yeah…attraction goes far. At which point does it cross a line?

Everyone is entitled to their preferences, and it's understandable if those preferences are transparent at the beginning of the relationship. So where's the line? What is love if something so superficial will make or break a relationship? In my opinion, that isn't how love works. But hey, when we're young what do we know? We have a narrow understanding of the world, of love and relationships, and we have our whole lives ahead of us. It's the time to make mistakes and feel infinitely protected. Enjoy this ridiculous Reddit piece about love and body hair.

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    ● r/AITAH 16 hr. ago Available-Band-6474 AITAH for telling my girlfriend I will break up with her if she doesn't shave?
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    For context I (25M) and my girlfriend (23F) have been together for a year almost 2. When we first got together it was great, I had literally no complaints about her and something I even told her early on the relationship during a conversation about our likes and dislikes that I don't find body hair on women attractive.
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    What I mean by body hair, I'm only talking about the armpits and legs. Everything else I don't care. I told her I don't mind stubble or just a little bit of growth but full blown long leg and armpit hair I don't find attractive at all. She didn't mind that I had that preference because she told me sh doesn't like the sensation of body hair on her.
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    Well recently she started growing out her body hair. Her armpits and legs almost look like mine now. I've asked her multiple times about it, not to remove it straight up but why has she been growing it out, and which she said she saw a TikTok about body positivity and it made her feel more confident.
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    I tried to like it, but I can't. It doesn't look good. I finally told her straight up that I don't find it attractive. She didn't like that, and said she doesn't want me to be like "one of those men". I told her if she doesn't shave I'm going to break up since I don't find her attractive because of this. Let's just say she got extremely off, that I'm never gonna find a woman that shaves daily for me. AITAH?
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    Edit: thought I'd add some more info since some people trying to twist it. I never said shave daily. I even said in the post I don't care about some body hair. She had her leg and armpit hair grown out for months all the while I'm asking her about it. It's extremely long and not taken care of, and I cannot be forced to like it lol. I did not straight up told her I was going to break up with her, this
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    was after multiple attempts of me trying to ask her about it and saying I was not attracted to it. Final edit: I looked through the majority of comments, I understand that I am an . I decided to break it off with her. She did not take it lightly, decided to insult me and threatened to break my stuff. She ended up leaving though after some
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    time, to stay at her mom's house. I didn't realize at the time it was up of me to give her an ultimatum about this, so I deserved the insults. Thanks for the judgments though, changed my view on this sort of topic, but I'd thought it would be a good thing for the both of us to move on from each other.
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    FoxXxTwoMissile • 16h ago NAH, she can have hair, you can walk away.
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    lynnlugg7777 • 16h ago NAH. You two are growing up and maturing, so you both will change. Time to move on. You'll find someone who shaves, and she'll find someone who accepts her for who she is. Good luck to you both.
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    MercifulOtter 16h ago I'm going to say NAH. You're allowed to not like it, but she's also allowed to do what she wants with her body. However, your comment was -y. If this is a dealbreaker for you end it instead of trying to get her to change.
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    EvaOgg Spoken 14h ago like a man truly in love.
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    14h ago rustys_shackled_ford If your relationship cant weather a little body hair, what hope does it have for when a real issue arises. This is probably best for you both if that's how little your willing to adapt for each other.
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    Dizzy-Ad-4526 14h ago I just want to add to everyone else and say that if you really love someone, a bit of 'unattractive' hair isn't gonna change your feelings about that person. So if you find her THAT unattractive with a bit of hair, she's definitely not the one for you. Find someone you can find attractive with body hair
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    attractive with body hair because everyone has them lol
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    Own Psychology_5916 14h ago ● if you don't like it sure leave but yta for trying to leverage it as a threat to get her to do something she doesn't want to do, and if that's a big enough thing for you to end the relationship it's probably for the best it's over. Hopefully she
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    best it's over. Hopefully she finds someone that values her for more than her ability to look prepubescent.
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    Putrid-Astronomer797 15h ago I wouldn't call you an for not being attracted to body hair. I would tell you to break up with her so she can find someone who loves her for her and not something superficial like the amount of body hair she has.
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    mandarinandbasil • 15h ago I mean yeah you're allowed to break up with her, but it's gonna be an interesting life if you plan to only date women. who are constantly shaving. It's just not possible. This level of superficiality is gonna bite you down the road.
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    catsTXn420 14h ago Yta. This relationship was doomed long before you posted here OP. If body hair is the line its not love and you both should move on. LOTS of changes occur with both males and females throughout life.. theres hair loss, weight gain, wrinkles, sagging skin, libido fluctuations, erectile
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    dysfunction. Your relationship has to be based on something much deeper in order to overcome these things TOGETHER. She deserves a partner that will have her back regardless of how hairy it is.
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    alanaisalive 14h ago I'm disabled and I told my partner that I physically can't shave my legs, so if he wants that to happen, he has to do it himself. Have you considered offering to put in the time and energy to shave her yourself, if you care so much? Or would that be a hassle and a waste of your precious time?
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    bodysugarist 14h ago If you're ready to break up with her over something as trivial as this, then please just do it. Let her find someone who actually cares for and loves her. Because if you actually love your partner, a little body hair would not make them "unattractive" to you.
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    SirRevolutionary1299 15h ago NTA - you can break up with people for whatever reason you want. YTA - for trying to force a shaving routine on someone. I don't know that you understand the amount of work and effort it takes for you to "feel attracted" based on lack of
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    "feel attracted" based on lack of hair. At the end of the day, if you're with someone then hair really shouldn't stand in the way. It's an awfully shallow position to take and even worse if you're trying to force it and make someone bend to it.
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    SnooCrickets 7386 • 16h ago Break up with her so she can go find a boyfriend who doesn't think women's natural bodies are unattractive.
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